“I can’t make everyone like me and you’d be a madman to try. You wouldn’t
be any good at your job or be true to yourself or what really matters
in life if you did, and I make no apology for that.” — BC
And yet…
*sigh*
What does matter most and is the true measure of a man’s worth is his honor, his integrity. You? You have become little more than a PR stunt pony precisely because you desperately want the general public to like and to accept you. As a result of this the ShamWow is negatively impacting your reputation and by extension your career. You owe your parents an apology for betraying the principles they tried to instill in you and to your supporters for lying purely to save face. That is not what I would call being true to oneself…unless one is morally bankrupt.
Sometimes your heart needs to be broken
So you can see what lies underneath,
To the flicker and flame of your soul
That you’ve always been destined to meet
Sometimes your spirit shines brighter
Through the glimmering light of your tears,
And when you arrive at the end of it all
Love will outshine the darkest of years
I’ve spent the last day pondering about this shitfest and about his PR and about everything you’ve taught us about narcs and what I’m beginning to wonder is this…..
You’ve made it clear that once a narc has their claws in you there is no way you can escape from them without being damaged by them in one way or another. An exit strategy from a narc is one big exercise in damage limitation – but the exit strategy is gonna hurt you either way.
This means Ben is going to be damaged by her whichever way this ends – so the end is only ever going to be about damage limitation – not damage removal. Maybe bringing her down in flames with a scandal that ruins her but burns him too is, in the long run, the least damaging exit for him. The other option – forcing a nice ‘civilised’ public split – only leaves her free to run riot with his future, his good name and his reputation forever and also leaves her free to damage and destroy him at will afterwards for as long as she pleases.
So, like I say, I don’t know if there is any way to split ‘nicely’ from lady narc and also ensure she is guaranteed to disappear forever and do no more harm to poor Ben. If someone doesn’t discredit her now as a shameless, manipulative fraud and a liar, she can live off this forever. There’s no stopping her pulling out a child for the next 20 years, tying herself to him and living off his name and capitalising on the association – and if she chooses to do this he will never be free of her. So, looking at it this way, maybe the scandal IS the best and least damaging way out for him.
Well, it’s fitting…especially since some call Sophie “Maris”…
LMAO, it fits! Especially the part where he goes, “Bleached, extra white, better to be kept in a refrigerated area. Well, it seems to be taking after it’s mother!“
I’m confused now. WTF? What I’m beginning to wonder is if his agents aren’t reacting to her, then maybe SH is not a narc after all – and she was SUPPOSED to be there all along. I hate to say it but could it be that we’re all wrong – the article is wrong, no one’s gone rogue, and they’re all just playing the PR game as scripted. All guilty as fuck – not just SH? I can’t see how his team would not realise her obvious manipulation – especially when you contacted them about the article. There is no possible way they would let her get away with organising pap walks – turning up uninvited in photos with a hoard of mates, and managing to get a set of photoshopped ‘Ben with kid’ photos out into the public domain without reacting in any way whatsoever. It just doesn’t seem possible and doesn’t fit – does the blackmail go as far as his agents too?
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Oh, she’s a narcissist…believe me. I just wonder if his team wants him to have a scandal? Or don’t believe us when we tell them what they don’t want to hear.
UTA is 100% complicit. I explained how and why in two recent posts…
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SH did it through UTA IMO. In the UK she was under control, in NYC where UTA has one of it’s main offices? She probably tried to get BC to go along and shill more than he was comfortable with. He resisted, so she called up UTA and complained that she couldn’t do it alone. Remember that UTA’s rep is riding on the ShamWow too because they enabled SH’s nonsense instead of shutting her down. So UTA told BC to be a good sport and that it’s in his own best interest to keep the Fail Train rolling along. This is clearly not true but they don’t want to lose clients over their incompetence. So BC agrees to one papwalk with stroller for damage control and a set visit. He had no idea that SH had other plans…
“You can see his knuckle clearly in another photo. – throw-it-away” – That only says the other photos weren’t ‘shopped as badly. This isn’t a diagnosis for EDS or something. This is a forensic analysis. The bad knuckle is the cherry to Gambles cake of shortcuts-for-life. Why are you making excuses for this bad job? Why are you so invested in convincing ppl to believe this one way or another? Oh nos. Is that you Gambles dear? Is all that butthurt making your brain shoot shit out your mouth?
So when people disagree that means they’re Gambles now? What the fuck?
When we start squabbling over something like this we are giving SoFake and Ham exactly what they want. I’ve used PS extensively and can assure you that those photos were manipulated to a great degree. Had BC been holding a bb we would only seestandardimage enhancement and a subtle modification of it’s features to make it look more like it’s alleged “daddy”. Another thing that is very telling is the complete visual disconnect between SH, BC and loaner…
Have you understood that SH was there Herr Nonny? I have a degree in Art, my training included drawing from live models for years. Everything from that woman’s physical appearance to her mannerisms are a perfect match. Furthermore what she is wearing also matches SH’s wardrobe. We are talking about a very specific bag, shoes etc. So nice try but unless a doppelganger raided SH’s closet she was caught going on a theater date with another man. End of.
So thoughtful of SBF to use BC’s money to buy his Sugar Mama a prezzie. He made a big mistake though, one that if he is who I think he is? Could cost him a lot. You see, CCTV camera footage can tell NT staff the exact time that he made that purchase. All anyone with access to the gift shop register needs to do is cross reference that with the matching CC and voila. He may have used cash but if he’s as stupid as SH…
Hi Gator, This morning, I was thinking about what corny headlines the UK tabloids would use when the inevitable split comes and I thought I’d send them to you just to give us all a bit of light relief after the NYC ‘show’… so it was funny to come onto your blog and see today’s ‘SH photo news’ this morning. Here’s hoping it’s a freaky sign! I have so far come up with..
Dr EstrangeD
Oh Sh*t Sherlock!
The Abominable Bride – Sherlock Star in bitter divorce battle
Cumberbatch’s Parade Ends
Mrs. Cheaterbatch
Dr EstrangeD!!!!! Nonny should def be a headline writer for the tabs
It’s Alimony My Dear Sherlock
These are awesome!
Sherlock Holmes and the Mystery of the Wandering Wife
I have been called in to shed a little bit of light on how Gambles used photoshop (incorrectly) to make Ben a happy daddy!
To start with, how did he make it look like Ben and baby are actually interacting? This is simple. There are three tools used to blend two objects into one picture. The blur tool, the burn tool, and the dodge tool. To get rid of the rough lines you get when moving something from one picture to another you have to blur the edges so it fades into the background. Then you have to make sure the lighting and shadows match. This is where the dodge and burn tools come in handy. To add highlights you paint with the dodge tool. To add shadow you do the same with the burn tool. These are the basics of photoshop.
Now on to the fun part! How did Gambles mess up? Lets start with the edges around the baby (and also around Ben). On close inspection you’ll find a slightly glowing “halo” around the baby. This is because when selecting the baby out of the picture it was originally in he didn’t know to select just inside the outer edge of the object he wants to move and he used too much blur tool trying to overcompensate. Then we have the shadows. As one anon pointed out, the lights and shadows don’t match on the two objects interacting. This is where the dodge and burn tools would have come in handy. He could either get rid of the light shining on the baby’s head or add light shining on Ben’s face and hat. But instead he decided to leave it probably because he decided no one would ever see the non-blurred photos and therefor no one would notice. Also, the folds on the shirt are a dead giveaway to anyone who knows anything about how fabrics move. While the highlights and shadows are done correctly, the shape of one specific “fold” is painful to look at. Because of the way jersey knit (the fabric all T-shirts are made out of) is made, when it folds it will only ever fold straight. It will never curve like it does in some of the pictures. And the folds would also change as the way the baby’s grip on the shirt changes. But they don’t. So from that it becomes obvious that those folds were just copied and pasted from one picture to the next. And another dead giveaway is the neckline of the shirt. If you were wearing a T-shirt and you wrapped a small amount of the fabric the way the baby is, the neckline of the shirt would move. But Ben’s doesn’t. Had Gambles spent more than 2 seconds figuring out how to work photoshop he would’ve known about the warp tool. This is a favorite amongst young women who like to photoshop their selfies because it can alter the shape of whatever you want, in this case the neckline of Ben’s shirt. But again, Gambles probably thought that no one would notice. But we did. And we went all Sherlock up in his b***h.
Now onto the promised Disney tea! I follow several Disney-centric blogs all of whom are currently talking about massive restructuring within the higher-ups in the company. Due to gross amounts of overspending and an inability to stay within a more than reasonable budget on any project within the parks many Disney execs are currently on the chopping block and Bog Iger’s hand-picked successor for CEO, Tom Stags, quit to avoid being fired. Now it’s common knowledge that the branch of Marvel that is making Doctor Strange is owned by Disney. And with so much chaos within the company it makes sense that any pr power they have would be focused on dealing with how the public is told about said chaos. So I can safely say that until things in the Burbank headquarters calms down, they aren’t going to worry about ending the “marriage” of one movie star to a narcissist. Which means we’re in this for the long haul. So keep popping your popcorn and pouring your drinks because this shitshow isn’t ending any time soon.
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That makes sense regarding the Disney inaction. The only trouble is, that article could drop at any time.
Good post that. I do disagree with OP on one count though, reorg isn’t going to last quite that long and PR will be working on it’s scheduled programming in a few months time at most. The Article of Doom? Is coming before that, so unless they want to lose some of the millions they invested in DS they are going to have to allocate some resources to neutralize SoHam. No question about it, those two are already setting BC up to take the blame and I do mean all of it. After that Disney/Marvel only has 5-6 months to hard sell DS, so in all likelihood the ShamWow will be over by then.
Anon, please. I’ve been looking at baby pics and reading commentary for two days now, and I’ve decided none of it matters. Because I have a Tumblr archive full of pictures of a woman who was never pregnant, and who never gave birth to anyone. And I believe my archive and my own common sense. Ben’s brazen act isn’t changing my mind one bit.
Anon. I can’t believe they photoshopped a baby into his arms. Well, I can believe, you know what I mean. Could he use the fakeness of the photo to his advantage? Could they spin it and say the picture was created in photoshop by an obsessed fangirl? That’s how I’d go tbh
Don’t think SH paid FOR the article. If anything, DM paid HER. BC is still good clickbait. That might be the reason she was even let on set.
BC was giving her a chance to make some cash and Marvel/Disney was playing nice to keep her quiet/under control.
If BC really didn’t want her on set security would have prevented it. (Ok he doesn’t really want her but their were reasons to let her be there.)
BC really couldn’t send her packing though, that would have ended very very badly. How is he going to do that to ShamWife? He had to stick to the ShamWow script but that “hug” on DS set shows you how he really feels. So he tolerated her while thinking, “Fine, get your supply.” But I don’t think he counted on her ramping it up to the level that she did. This apparently included taking a second set of photos in one location with what may have been a body double and loanerbb. BC better call his lawyers fast, she fucked him over big time…
