By Judah

Narcissists belong in the category of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). This means that while most of them are beautiful and charming, they are deep down rotten to the core and there is no treatment for what ails them. So how do you deal with one? You don’t. You avoid them like the plague — but first, you have to learn to recognize them, which is why I’m here to teach you what to look for. How do you know when you’re dealing with NPD/BPD? — they move quickly to ‘own’ you. Shortly after meeting one, they decide your lives should merge and you should move in together. If the narcissist is a man, he will propose to you within 30 days after meeting you. If the narcissist is a woman, she will pressure you to marry her after a week. This is not normal behavior — and no matter what you think you feel: you are not in the love. No matter what you think you feel, you will never be happy in a relationship with a narcissist. You will always be ‘on edge’ or waiting for the other shoe to drop. If you somehow manage to find a little happiness, your narcissist will make it their priority to make you miserable. Like most narcissists, she firmly believes she is entitled to what is yours. This means your money, your man, your personal property, and sometimes your life. The NPD/BPD individual is an empty, soulless human being who has no empathy or compassion for your feelings. The narcissist is an empty shell who requires external triggers in order to feel human like you. They are ‘The Takers of The World’:

You can easily detect narcissists, including the everyday non-malignant kind, by how they process personal interactions. To a normal person, anything you do for them is a gift, and they will normally thank you for it, and possibly think of a way to reciprocate in kind. To a narcissist, by contrast, anything you do is part of an instant obligation you have to [her], it is never good enough, and you have a permanent responsibility to try harder to please [her]. Your efforts will always [fail], but the narcissist will generously let you try again. And again.

Since there is no cure for narcissism; each incidence will only make her worse. If you are a narcissist enabler, then you are easy prey for a narcissist. Learn how to identify narcissists/borderlines in your life before they identify — and destroy you.