9 Signs of Traumatic Bonding
- Over identifying with the abuser
- Feeling indebted to the abuser
- Feeling that “he or she needs me”
- Explaining almost everything away
- Protecting the abuser
Allowing the abuse to continue to “please” the abuser
Wearing multiple “hats”
Covering negative emotions in the presence of the abuser
Desiring love and affection despite being hurt:
Because I was blamed for all theses issues which are actually normal adaptation to my environment and in Oct I plan to address it with my family, I’m going to write a lot about these issues no one wants to talk about.
What my life was like? and why I acted as I did?
1. Over identifying with the abuser:
There are times when the abused individual may hate the abuser one minute and the next minute make statements or do things that makes the relationship appear better than it actually is.