A MAJOR HEALING STEP
ALL OF YOU must jump over is a self-analysis of WHAT LOVE IS?
I know on a gut level you say, no problem, but then when you start to formulate your narrative you start to understand you could do your Ph.D on this subject and still not have it mastered.
THIS IS WHY? you must have bell hooks ideology under your belt.
She will challenge you and your concepts of what love you do have and what you do want.
AND/OR look at it from another direction.
I have no hope of getting you outside of our attraction to abusive men, until you really look at what you define as love.
When that changes. Your internal definition of what love is and is not, and you will choose better in your life.